New Book Details One Family's Loss and Outcome of Healing

The mental illness ran deep in Sue Hoffman's family and her mother had no power over what would happen at any given time. Sue began to write. She discovered her writing skills and had a new rebirth. These writings would become THE WORDS OF MY LIFE.

In her family, Sue Hoffman never really knew where she fit in.  The middle of five children, did she belong with the older or younger siblings? Sue’s understanding of her family didn’t come into full focus until after her siblings started to die.  Visualize a circle that would be the mother, the sun. There would be five rays emanating from this circle and each was one of her children. However, those rays didn’t touch one another or the circle.  Nothing was connected.  What a discovery that was.

The mental illness ran deep and her mother had no power over what would happen at any given time.  Sue began to write. She discovered her writing skills and had a new rebirth.  These writings would become her book, THE WORDS OF MY LIFE. 

"When my mother bit her fist in anger, all the siblings would scatter; we knew someone was going to get that wrath she held in her fist," Sue explains. "For some strange reason, it was generally directed at me. I was my mom's main target."

Sue Hoffman, Author

In her early years, she knew she was the nurturer and peacemaker, the glue that held them all together but it was a lot to carry.  “When my mother bit her fist in anger, all the siblings would scatter; we knew someone was going to get that wrath she held in her fist,” Sue explains.  “For some strange reason, it was generally directed at me. I was my mom’s main target.”

Sue always felt condemned by her brother, Joe. This gave him permission to stay out of her life. There were so many dysfunctional behaviors that followed this family and some went to the grave with them. Sue wrote profound words about the relationships that had such an impact on her.  With Joe, she says, “We just became. We were.”  This began a piecing process that would put together their new life together as siblings. They began to trust one another. “God knew Joe needed me as much as I needed him,” she emphasizes. “We grabbed a hold of one another never let go, especially through he is eventual cancer diagnosis.”

You can learn more about Sue’s journey on her website, www.thewordsofmylife.com. She lives in Billings, Montana and first became an author at sixty.